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How to value yourself

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God values you infinitely, but how much do you value yourself, and if you do not value yourself very much, how could you learn to value yourself a little more, if not a whole lot more?

Valuing yourself is a lot about self-worth, self-acceptance, and having the confidence to be this person that God sees and values in you.

Some people, when asked about valuing themselves, might offer an opinion about their outer value, some more about their inner feelings of self worth, but most people would think that if they have a soul, at least this part of them would be valuable.

This is a good start to valuing yourself. You are valuable in your essence; essentially, who you really are is valuable both to God and to yourself.

Lack of self-value comes from holding false beliefs about yourself. Belief comes into existence from a choice that you have made. Every choice is attached to a belief. You cannot make choices without holding onto a belief of some kind. Your beliefs are what helps you to decide.

This choice is indirectly being placed upon the self-values that you are holding onto in yourself. It is your values that fuel your beliefs, and the love that fills both is God living in you. As much as you believe in God, which means accepting God as being within you by allowing him to live within you as you being you within God, you will feel the real true value of yourself.

Self-value can begin inwards and work its way outwards, or alternatively it can start first outwardly, and then work its way inwards. This is because the outer reflects the inner, and the inner reflects the outer.

If you show appreciation and gratitude for all that you have outwardly, this will tend to enhance your self-worth, because if you value your environment, this also must include yourself, and so you will usually end up valuing yourself, too.

Some psychologists will sometimes suggest that self valuing begins in childhood.

These intellectuals often associate self-value with having your needs met, without feeling guilty about doing so. A child often wants things for itself, and when labelled as being selfish by a parent, this is said to be the start of creating a feeling of less than a full self-worth in that child. They are made to feel guilty about wanting their needs met, and this then influences greatly their self-value, self-respect, and even whether they will continue to like themselves.

Thought begins in a person when their self-esteem is high enough for them to receive a thought and own it for themselves as being their own thought. Each thought that you own and value builds your self-esteem as long as this thought is being bathed in God's love.

When all thoughts are felt by you as coming to you from being bathed in the love of God, and then left exactly as they come to you from God, you will hold onto your self-worth. This will continue for as long as you value love as much as it is within you, by seeing this same love within all things.

See love, and see self-value. It's that easy, if you never let go of God's love.

Every thought ever thought is thought by God.

All that you are ever doing is rethinking them, and then trying to claim them as your own. You do this when you try to hold onto them with your own ego, and which then lessens the love that is in them. This then changes them to negative thoughts, and also it distorts the original idea in a similar way to how a thought changes when it is being passed down a line of people, who are passing it on from one person to another. The thought received by the last person is usually not the same as what was given to the first person in the line.

All thoughts start off pure and perfect, as they must be within God's oneness.

It is your own attitude and ego personality that lessens the value of the thought by not allowing enough love to continue to flow through it, thereby reducing its effectiveness. This is because you fear love from your ego's perspective, and this will always be so until you learn to put your ego back into its proper place again, and so once again learn to live as your own real self, or from your soul.

When you live from your soul, rather than from your ego, self-worth and self-value naturally live in you, because these qualities are part of your soul, and therefore also coming to your part of God from God himself. Every soul is forever a valuable part of God, and connected to God.

When you fully accept your own true self like this, by realising that you are a spiritual being called a soul that is living an outwardly human life, your self-value cannot be lessened ever again. You will have learnt to value yourself, by being yourself.

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